Cameron Shayne thinks it's okay to have sex with your yoga teacher

alignyo yoga news: Yoga teacher Cameron Shayne admits to sleeping with students
Cameron Shayne
Cameron Shayne was Charlie Sheen's bodyguard before creating Budokon yoga.
Before he created Budokon, Cameron Shayne was a bodyguard and trainer to celebs like Charlie Sheen and Chris Tucker.
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Budokon creator and celebrity yoga teacher Cameron Shayne made headlines this weekend when he penned a piece for RebelleSociety on why he thinks it’s okay for you to have sex with your yoga teacher. Shayne admits to sleeping with his students in the past and needless to say, he doesn’t think it’s a big deal.

“As a single male yoga teacher, I have had on more than one occasion engaged in deep and meaningful intimate relationships with a woman I have met either in my class, workshops or in the yoga community,” he says. He also notes that he doesn’t regret any of these sexual relationships, even the ones that ended badly.

Well, some don't agree with Shayne, stating that because many turn to yoga as a way to heal from a traumatic experience or to find themselves, when a teacher engages in that kind of behavior with students in a vulnerable place, it’s predatory and malicious. 

According to Shayne, the kind of teachers who suddenly find themselves elevated on a platform and surrounded by beautiful people have probably always been nerds and therefore, not sure how to deal with that kind of attention appropriately.

“The majority of all yoga sex scandals involve one or more desperate devotees and a teacher who figures out, maybe for the first time in his or her hopelessly hip-less life, that they can get laid. After all, most of these men and women are conventionally unattractive, socially uncool, religious-oriented geeks, and always have been.”

But he doesn’t just blame the teachers. He says that as students, we need to check ourselves before we wreck ourselves.

“The guru/students manipulation — like cocaine — is the symptom of a larger problem; the student’s lack of self worth, identify and voice. Clearly the corrupted guru is a problem, but the student, like the user, is the real disease. This desperate effort to replace an absent father, or experience a feeling of wholeness, or fill some void are the root cause, not the guru. And sadly these women were going to fall prey to some man whether he showed up as the out-of-work freeloading boyfriend, the white-bearded chanting sage, the manipulating boss, or the latest yoga celebrity. This projection of responsibility onto the teaching community to think for their students is only dumbing down the students and furthering them from being self-realized. I will not further dull-down the already diminishing intellectual reputation of the yoga community by suggesting that we need to be regulated.”

You can read Cameron Shayne's blog at RebelleSociety here. If you want the CliffNotes version, check out this piece from The Frisky.

And we’re dying to know what you think, is it ever okay to get busy with your yoga teacher?

Read our interview with Cameron Shayne

Comments

Sometimes

A yoga student/teacher relationship is certainly a conflict of interests, business, personal, and possibly spiritual. But I think it is a very case by case, circumstantial kind of situation. A yoga teacher preying on insecurities of a member of their class or school is obviously slimy and mean spirited.... But as an adult taking a yoga class, I need to accept that the person teaching my class is just another adult with knowledge in a subject I'm interested in. Yoga teachers are not better than the rest of the human race; though they are generally good people and many are wonderful and inspiring leaders, that doesn't mean there aren't a few bad apples. As an adult, no matter what trauma you've been through or are working through in yoga, you have to consider what you're getting into when you decide to sleep with someone. If you wouldn't sleep with your pastor as he/she led you through a difficult time, why would you sleep with your yoga guru that you've given the same type of powerful role and place in your life?
Obviously, this opinion exempts sexual coercion, and preying on minors or students in a college/graded environment. And lying to convince someone to sleep with you is wrong.

Is it ok to get busy with your yoga teacher?

Once it involves consenting adults and it is not coerced,mentally or physically, I think its ok. It is not ok for a school or university teacher who is dealing with children or adults who have to be graded and need to graduate. Yoga is a voluntary personal activity that does not materially affect your career or future earning capacity in the way that university and high school grades do.

Sleeping with the Yoga Teacher

In my memoir, Chakra Secrets, I reveal how I felt betrayed by my first Guru, when I found out I was simply one in a series of students he had seduced. I accepted responsibility for this, as my Sacral Chakra was out of balance and I became his willing lover. I had just lost my husband, and was entranced by Gurudev's promise of spirituality, kundalini rising and love - all wrapped up together. Later in my story, I unfortunately made love with one of my own students - almost out of my control, for very complicated reasons. We knew and loved each other before the workshop but were kept apart because of various complications, including the fact that he was the boyfriend of my best-friend (who was dying of cancer).

When I first studied to be a yoga teacher, I was told that many of my students would be attracted to me, put me on a pedestal, that they would think they could tap into my knowledge or spirituality by bedding me, etc. But that if approached, I should tell them to "enjoy the feeling of attraction," but leave it at that, since it wasn't appropriate to act on it.

I wrote Chakra Secrets partly to work out my guilt and to explain why I did what I did and why it had to happen in my case. To receive forgiveness, mostly from myself. And to uncover for the yoginis among my readers, the drama behind the yoga curtain.

Namaste!
Becca Chopra, author of The Chakra Diaries, Chakra Secrets and Balance Your Chakras, Balance Your Life
www.thechakras.org

it's okay to have sex with your student

I really loved the part "Clearly the corrupted guru is a problem, but the student, like the user, is the real disease. This desperate effort to replace an absent father, or experience a feeling of wholeness, or fill some void are the root cause, not the guru. And sadly these women were going to fall prey to some man whether he showed up as the out-of-work freeloading boyfriend, the white-bearded chanting sage, the manipulating boss, or the latest yoga celebrity."

Way to take no responsibility, blame the survivor and show experiences with predators as a forgone and inevitable conclusion.

Honestly, I can't believe some of the stuff that comes out of peoples twisted minds but I thank him for being honest about his predatory behavior. At least if I choose to get into bed with him, I'll know what to expect.

Buyer and student beware!!!

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